‘Grey’s Anatomy’s Love Triangle: Do You Want Meredith With DeLuca or Hayes? (POLL)
Meredith (Ellen Pompeo) is back in a love triangle on Grey’s Anatomy, and it sounds like her choice in Season 17 is still unclear, even to showrunner Krista Vernoff.
“I don’t know if I think that DeLuca is rising to a level of dark and twisty and life experience that makes him somehow a [suitably] mature partner for Meredith. Or if all that Hayes has been through in his life already makes him her equal,” she told TVLine. “I honestly don’t know how it will end.”
After getting past one of them nearly going to prison for her insurance fraud and both said “I love you,” Meredith and DeLuca (Giacomo Gianniotti) hit a few bumps in their relationship in Season 16. But their relationship status going forward isn’t the only thing up in the air — she was taking care of him at the end of the finale — with his mental health a big question mark.
That may end up being the focus for DeLuca’s character early on in Season 17, especially if they bring back the human trafficking storyline that they couldn’t return to after production shut down early. Meredith would likely be part of that, but they wouldn’t necessarily be together at the beginning of it.
Meanwhile, Cristina sent Meredith a present during Season 16: Hayes (Richard Flood), a.k.a. McWidow. (He, too, lost a spouse and is a single parent.) The two have shared a few bonding moments over the season — though Meredith was wary of him being a gift — and were clearly on the path to something before the season ended early.
But this probable love triangle is something that the series will need to address in the already picked-up Season 17, whenever that may be. What are you hoping to see with Meredith’s love life? Vote in the poll below.
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Hayes of course.DeLuca is too young and there’s no chemistry
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Deluca is not young . Met already been with Deluca .
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I say Dr Hayes . Don't know what she ever saw in Deluca . I never liked him for her .
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Mer saw a nice guy in Deluca . Unlike what she saw in Derek who was toxic .
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McWidow all day
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Hayes!!!!!
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Deluca definely! All the romance and passion from him and Meredith talking in Italian was epic! It brought light to the show and Meredith’s fans like me
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Deluca more story and build up. And they have a connection. And they still love each other.
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Deluca has my vote 100 percent.. He is in love with her and he has her back no matter what. Even while they were going through really difficult situations in season 16 (Insurance fraud case and Deluca's mental breakdown) you can not deny that thier bond and care for each other was still as strong as ever.
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Hayes. Christina knows best. I didn't even watch season 15 because of the deluca/meredith thing.
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I agree here. And I definitely prefer Hayes.
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Christina might be Meredith's person but she does not know best.
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I’m with you Gold. Hayes is not so ridiculously insecure as is DeLuca who seems to be going a bit bonkers over wanting to be recognized as Meredith’s equal ( never gonna happen Dude)! Hayes is a real man who doesn’t need that kind of sick validation. Go Hayes!
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Definitely DeLuca as it makes perfect sense. Meridith & DeLuca have been through a lot together & they have shown us already that they'd do so much for their love. They deserve a happy ending! Plus there's no chemistry between Meridith & Hayes - he's a new character, but not her "love interest".
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Hayes, Deluca is boring and ordinary. Hayes and Gray have chemistry
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Deluca 10000%!!! It’s clear how they’ve both cared for each other. You can’t just throw a relationship like that away. It’s clear that they love each other
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Oh gosh, Hayes please!! Deluca and Meredith never made sense to me.
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Deluca all the way!!
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DeLuca he’s the one who brought back Mer’s smile and let’s face it Meredith and Andrews love story is the kind of love story greys likes writing!!!!!! Not fairytale love story’s where 2 widows live happily ever after
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Hayes! No contest
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Hayes
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Hayes
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Hayes please not Deluca
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Dr. Hayes! He's more mature!
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I love Hayes!!! 💕 Grey and Hayes have a great chemistry onscreen. He can be a new McDreamy. He is handsomely fine. He looks the same age as Meredith Grey unlike Delucca, who looks younger. 😕
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Hayes
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Deluca for sure! They've been through a lot and clearly shown they care and love each other.
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Deluca gets my vote. They were very sweet together and have been going through a lot together too. It would put a bad taste in my mouth if the thing that ends then officially is his mental illness. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I’m surprised how many people are ready to just accept this new person when he and Meredith have had like 2 conversations together (and mostly about their former spouses). We literally don’t know if they have much else in common. Just because he’s more “age appropriate” doesn’t make him better. Did everyone all have the same maturity opinions/issues with couples like Meredith/Derek and Lexie/Mark, who also had big age gaps and issues of being on different levels/maturity?
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Deluca is child like, all that was is sex, fun. Mer needs a mature man. Deluca needs to find a girl like Jo
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Deluca all the way
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Deluca.
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Deluca why because i feel like mer need him and he needs her. I dont really like Hayes with mer but they would be good friends. I mean yall already had mer and Deluca together so why not keep it going. Also because I feel like Deluca is like his dad so mer and his sister would need to be there for him.... he need them the most and i feel like another guy does not need to come around her kids. Thier dad already died why does Deluca need to leave just for another guy to come in her and her kids life. Lets not forget DELUCA was the 2 person mer said i love u to and Deluca cute Hayes not so much (but he not ugly). BOTH of her best friends all ready left why does deluca have to leave her life.
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Hayes her equal. Mature, good looking, they connect.
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Hayes all the way!
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Hayes
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Hayes!! Cristina sent him for a reason. He's the stable end game.
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Hayes!
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Hayes
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Hayes.... Deluca is a child and will never measure up to Derek. I know the writers have to do what's best for Mer but take a look back. Andrew has slept on Mer's couch and never showered (so inmature) and has slept on Jackson's couch. Lived with Arizona too. Really don't like him as a person he is inmature and will never be her equal. Give Hayes a chance, he at least is her equal.
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Hayes
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Hayes
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Hayes!
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hayes 100%. DeLuca is kind of loosing it and Hayes understand her pain about loosing her spouse and also has kids. i think they will support each other greatly
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Hayes! 🙂
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Dr hayes for sure
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Hayes, because I think that blended family could really bring a lot more to the show then just a DeLuca/Meredith romance could.
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Hayes, Deluca is too young for Merideth.
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Neither. I want someone better. Can we bring Scott Speedman back? I get nothing from HAYES (and the McWidow tag is just lazy) and they haven’t known what to do with De Luca since he was with Maggie.
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Deluca
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Deluca
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Meredith and Deluca have a special bond and Meredith, herself said she still loves him. If Meredith dates Hayes she will realize she still belongs with Deluca.
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DeLuca
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Deluca 10000000000%
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Deluca 100%. There is no chemistry between Meredith and Hayes. They would be better off as friends because they both experienced loss. Meredith and Deluca still love each other and you can see that. For once just let Mer be happy with the one person she has said ‘𝙄 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪’ to since Derek.
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Deluca all the way . Meredith and Deluca have passion . Mer already told Deluca she loves him twice .
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Definitely Hayes!
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HAYES!!!
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Hayes
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Hayes. He's fine and definitely her equal.
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Hayes for sure! They have so much in common on how they both lost the love of their lives. And just imagine them getting together and having a cute little family with all of their kids 🥺
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Hayes
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Hayes
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Hayes...hands down! Deluca is a pool boy. Fun to have a summer fling with but nothing more. Hayes has far more depth. He's a man...not a boy.
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Hayes...they have both lost the love of their lives...they alone can know what the other has gone through
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Hayes. Deluca has a lot of growing to do. Meredith needs someone more seasoned
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Hayes !
the whole part of them being more “equal “
Also,
it’ll tie good with Yang when she comes back since there is already history with Hayes and her (Yang) !
the 3 of them will hit off great and it’ll tie together perfectly !
when Yang comes back in season 17
grey and her will start off with some disagreements not liking deluca cause his bipolar problem or and him still being years behind her skills including yangs to as well ! Since Alex is gone the three of them can replace that feeling of Grey Yang and karev! It’ll be good
hayes !
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Christina is not coming back.
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Andrew 100% their relationship is so refreshing, they have different stories and experiences and I think they complement each other perfectly. They worked hard together to save Richard and Andrew found the solution and saved him, the last two episodes showed a very deep connection between them.. Hayes can be with Jo 😉
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Neither, i say we bring Derek back from the dead. But i would want Riggs next then Hayes and Deluca are tied
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Deluca. Hayes is Mer's equal, but I couldn't feel the chemistry, besides that they both have been thru similar condition with their spouses' death.
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DeLuca and Mer have something real, complicated and beautiful.
The Hayes storyline just seems too perfect, it's not real.
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Merluca!!
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Deluca
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Deluca
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deluca 😍😍😍😍
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DeLuca all the way 😍😍😍😍😍
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McWidow
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Definitely, Hayes. I would like to see more of him because he has an interesting background, with a lot of similarities to Meredith. Meredith and DeLuca is old already!
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Deluca
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Definitely DeLuca. Hayes is a fling.
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DeLuca might be a hero no one appreciates, but I worry about her taking him home to her kids.
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DdeLuca
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Deluca! ❤️
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merluca
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Deluca all the way hes hot and he loves her!
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She said "the sex is good." She isn't in love with him, it's her getting back into the game since she's had a hard time dating since Derek died.
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Deluca
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Deluca! ❤
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Hayes just seems like a better fit. I was never a big fan of her and Deluca being together, seemed odd.
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DeLuca. ♡♡
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Hayas
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Hayes
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Hayes. There's a possibility for her to go through more drama with Deluca's mental health.
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Deluca
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Definitely McWidower 😉
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Hayes. Mer and Deluca just don't work good together
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Hayes all the way
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Hayes!
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No deluca or hayes
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DELUCA!!!
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Hays. More mature and room for a new storyline.
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Team DeLuca
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Team DeLuca all day
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Hayes definitely, DeLuca is been there done that
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Deluca and Meredith . Meredith already slept with Deluca . The kids love Andrew . Hayes is just boring and doesn’t fit with Meredith .
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DeLuca! She loves him and he loves her and that's all that matters!
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My vote would be neither but if I HAD to chose, it would be Hayes. It just makes more sense to me for Meredith to stay single for now and play the field. She needs to find herself again, take a deep breath then maybe give Hayes a chance
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Hayes!! Besides he is a present from her twisted sister!!!
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Hayes!!
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Hayes, DeLuca has never bonded with Meredith's kids. DeLuca just doesn't seem like a fit. And besides, Hayes was sent by Kristina, she knows what Meredith needs.
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Hayes all the way. Deluca and Meredith never felt right
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De Luca is very handsome and sexy, too immature for Mer though. Besides he is not too stable. I am iffy about the other guy too. Meredith meeds a sexy sure of himself man. Like McDreamy was.keep looking Meredith!
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Hayes
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Hayes!!!!
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DeLuca
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Is it bad and wayyyyyyyy to late to say derek still?
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Deluca all way
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Meredith should stay with Deluca & Hayes should go with Jo.
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Neither one. We went through this year's ago. No screwing around with staff members.
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It should be neither! They need to bring back Scott Speedman, pay him whatever he wants!!
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merluca 100%
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Deluca
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Deluca for sure 💖 they haven't come this far for Mer to get with someone she barely knows!
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Deluca all the way. Hayes is so boring and his character is not appealing at all. MERLUCA ENDGAME!
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Deluca is her next great love
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In my opinion changing partners like underwear like this show does, really doesn’t make it more interesting, the opposite. I vote for Meredith to stay with DeLuca. They love each other, he is smart, passionate, great with kids , they already have gone through a lot together. And I mentioned before the only two that the screenwriters allowed to stay together we’re Meredith and Derek but I’m hoping that is also the case for Amelia and Link and Meredith and Andrew. I am at a point where I don’t want to watch the show anymore if they keep switching partners around .
And why do perfectly great characters have to get messed up? I would enjoy the show way more if they wouldn’t mess up the characters, if DeLuca didn’t get a mental illness. Just keep his Character the way he is for goodness sake. He’s a great guy, just keep it that way. And the age difference between him and Meredith doesn’t matter. There were other characters in the show with a big age difference like Lexi and Mark , Meredith and Derek also .
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Definitely DeLuca!!! I didn’t like the whole mental breakdown story but that’s TV for you . One thing I don’t like about the show is that no relationship ever works out except Meredith and Derek.I don’t want to see her going from one person to another again . DeLuca was a great guy and super smart before the breakdown , great with kids and willing to sacrifice himself for his love. Meredith loves him . I hope this plays out well for the two of them in the story .
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DeLuca 100%!
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Definitely the more mature, sexy, smart Hayes!
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Hayes
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Hayes!
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My votes for Hayes!
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100%deluca.. becoz they make a perfect couple and have amazing chemistry..which we want to see more... and have love that is wht matters
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deluca
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DELUCA 100% no question
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DeLuca All Day Everyday
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Mer always goes with the bad choice so I say Deluca. It’s history. She chose eDerrick over the vet years ago. The vet was the good choice but she still chose Derrick. So I say Deluca all the way.
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Dr. Hayes is strong enough to handle Grey. Also, he can give Zola siblings she can relate to. Deluca is just not right for her. Being in my own triangle, I know the right guy for long term and so does Grey. She is considering Hayes because something is telling her he is more right for her.
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Hayes!! She’s just been “Off” with DeLuca from the beginning. He’s spinning, even though he’s been right about some things, his mind is going. He’ll never forgive her for not believing about Trafficking Victim!
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McWidow. He’s better looking, less annoying and Deluca is too young and looney.
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Team Hayes all the way!!
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Eh, I'm not a Merluca fan, but I can still see how Meredith and Hayes would be super forced, he's literally written for her. Lost a wife, has kids, Cristina sent him, I mean come on! It would be as forced as Teddy and Owen. And I see comments saying there's a lot of chemistry, I'm like ??? They've barely talked lol, we haven't even seen them romantically involved, where is the chemistry?
I would say single Meredith, but they clearly want to pair her with someone, so DeLuca or someone else entirely (Tom, maybe?). I don't feel it with Hayes.
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Want her with DeLuca "IF" he gets his act together!! I don't want her with the other guy at all. Ewwww
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Hayes. But DeLuca has the look like McDreamy
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Hayes
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McWidow!! So McSexy!!!
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For sure mcwidow
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Hayes or be McWidow for ever!
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McWidow yum
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Hayes all the way
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I been watching for years never missed it new and old I think Hayes of course he would make for great tv
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Hayes
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Hayes
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Mcwidow
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McWidow!!!
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McWidow
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McWidow
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Hayes!!
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Neither!!
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Hayes all the way!!! Hes more manly in his personality and it just fits.
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Neither of them even come close to her chemistry with Derek. So I say keep looking for her match.
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Please don't put meredith with Deluca....that was wrong from the start. Hayes all the way!!!!
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Hayes please. Deluca showed signs of being unstable before Grey even choose him. Hayes has so much in common wirh Grey AND he's the anti-Derek. Deluca is a wanna be...he wanna be the same as Derek in Grey's eyes...he wanna be Grey's equal...he wanna be a great surgeon...he wanna be everything he's not. Hayes is already a good man, he has a reputation already, he's friends with Grey's bestie, he's everything that Deluca wanna be and more.
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Hayes!
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Hayes....he understands where she is in her life ....what she is going through. Not some hormone driven teenager
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Definitely Hayes. Deluxe always seemed like a mismatch from the beginning
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Definetely DeLuca, they make a handsome couple with great chemistry like Derek n Meredith. Please let it b DeLuca... 💕💕💕💕
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DeLuca because he is gorgeous and you can tell Meredith is starting to fall in love with him after Mcdreamy. I feel like if she ends up with Hayes, it only does Cristina the favor of doing her needs of being with a gift
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Hayes!!! Coming from a widow its easier to connect with s someone that knows that deep passion and heartbreak!! DeLucca is too young they just dont have it together.
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Hayes! More mature, less drama.
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Hayes
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Deluca!!
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Hayes all the way, I just feel like deluca is way too emotional and he isn't right for Meredith
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DeLuca-he's so hot and passionate
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Hayes
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Hayes!
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Deluca 100%
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DELUCA!!!!!!!
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Hayes! While Meredith and DeLuca have already built something, in the long run it might work better for Meredith to be with Hayes because he has kids and he's experienced losing the true love of his life like Meredith. I don't think Meredith will want to have more kids in her 40s. DeLuca is still young & I'm sure he'll want kids someday. Also Christina wouldn't have sent him to Meredith if she didn't know they would work. Hayes and Meredith don't have chemistry yet because he's still new, but if given the chance, I think they could have something.
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Deluca! I love how he loves Meredith! If they have her dump him for McWidow, it will give the impression that people with mental illnesses are incapable of being loved and in a relationship. It would look bad on the show and really bad on society.
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Hayes!!
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Deluca!
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Deluca. He's so hot
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DeLuca!!!
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Hayes..
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Deluca definitely
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Deluca is the only one that has seemed like he could be her new McDreamy. They fight and love like she and Derek did. ❤️
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Delucaa😍
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Larger and better merluca. Stop forcing this Bald Man on Meredith.
Every day this article, look for something else !!!!!
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Hayes for Meredith... My opinion.
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Neither.. haven't seen her significant other yet.
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Andrew Deluca all the way
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This the 21st century . Can’t she be a modern strong woman with an awesome job and her family to look out for without the need for a man 🙏
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I agree with GreenFlame! Bring Scott Speedman back! The chemistry between Meredith and Nick far out weighs anything she has with Hayes. And DeLuca is just dull....boring...and a go nowhere type of relationship and story line. Enough time has gone by that she is no longer his Doctor!
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Hayes is super sexy and so good for Mer.
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Hayes is super sexy. Bald men are better in bed. Mer deserves the best.
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Hayes all day everyday
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Anyone but deluca.
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Mc Widow PLEASE!!!!!!! Zola could use some big brothers.
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I prefer Dr. Hayes. He seems like he would be more solid for Meredith;whereas Deluca seems like he's still trying to figure things out. He seems too young for her. Hays' character seems like a man and Deluca's character seems like boy growing into manhood.
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Mc widow
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Hayes all the way. Deluca feels forced. Both with his love or Mer and the mental break down. He went from being passionate for the girl who had to be deported to being in love with Mer damn near over night. Hayes is a much stronger character and a better match.
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Hayes!
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Hayes--have never cared for DeLuca.
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Hayes
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Hayes!
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Hayed
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HAYES
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Hayes!!!!
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Hayes
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McWidow.
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Hayes, Meredith would never put up with Deluca's issues, she already has three kids and a full-time job to take care of.
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Mcwidow!!! Meredith needs a happy ending!
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Neither
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Neither
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Hayes is mature and mysterious. Meredith and Hayes have had moments that DeLuca never had with Meredith. There is also the fact that DeLuca is on a rampage and no doubt he is going mad. DeLuca may have been right about the whole human trafficking episode but still, the way he went about it was way overboard and should have approached it more cautiously in order to prevent them from running off like they did. Christina saw something in Hayes and Christina has a good taste in men that may break your heart a couple times but is always a keeper. I put $100 down that in Season 17 Hayes and Meredith go on a couple dates and hook up. It's too early for them to get into a serious relationship or, possibly, it could occur towards the end of season 17. Hayes has got this in the bag!!!!
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Dr. HAYES. DeLuca never made any sense to me either. Mer and DR HAYES haven't really had that much screen time. They were barely in the last four episodes. But the ones they were in you could see the Chemistry, especially the first episode he was in. Also when she told him about Derek without telling him, and he understood. I'm sure Meridith loves DeLuca but she's not in love with him.. She said it herself, to Amelia, the sex is good. So I'm going with Dr Hayes and hope he gets equal time in season 17
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Hayes
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Hayes
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She and Deluca are the strangest pairing EVER! Please put her and Dr. Hayes together. They have so much in common, and you can just tell they "need" and "want" to share that with each other!
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Deluca
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I have been watching this show from the very first episode but Meredith being with DeLuca makes me want to stop watching!!! There's absolutely no chemistry he's a weak little boy who brings Meredith character down.
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Scott Speedman - Yes!
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Definitely Meredith and Hayes. He is the only I will accept other than Derek
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Definitely Hayes! Deluca is just an immature boy.
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Hayes
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Hayes! I seen more chemistry with him. Not really any with DeLuca
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Hayes for sure. Deluca is a hot mess.
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Hayes
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Hayes
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Over here...
Hayes😊😊
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Hayes, I'd really like to see them both find love and happiness again
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Hayes!!
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Hayes!
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HAYES
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i hate mer and Andrew they are just so toxic and I want to see Mer and Hayes really bad!
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DELUCA...
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DeLuca
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Deluca because he is the best even if he is going though a hard time
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definitely hayes, they keep trying to make deluca derek and it’s not him.
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Hayes 100%!!! He gets her way more, he's much not mature and I think it's time she's with someone who challenges her (again).
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HAYES*****
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Mcwidow please
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McWidow is who Meredith needs to be with!!! They have this vibe that her and Deluca don’t. They’ve both been through losses and I think that’s why they understand eachther so well!
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